Social media is ever growing and so is the need for people to feel validated. You see, in todays society, we simply cannot live without our phones. We also have a strong sense of over sharing our lives.
So much so, that ‘drunk party picture’ in the toilet, just has to be shared, like now! Let’s not forget the loud music and night club scenes. ** music blaring in the background ** Snapping a few pictures is cool. But there comes a time when it is EXCESSIVE.
We all know 1 person who snapchats EVERYTHING! “Going to the gym” #gains Or “I’m having so much fun right now just look at my face, while I hold my phone in front of my face making this video. Can’t you hear the music and see how cool I am?”#PartingHard
There comes a point where, rather enjoying yourself, your more interested in securing your own image of what other people think of you, than actually having fun.
Go have fun.
It’s Epilepsy awareness month, and for those of you not familiar with it, I’d like to share some useful information coming from someone who has it. Epilepsy is a neurological disorder that causes you to have seizures. They can happen at ANY time. Some people don’t even know what causes them to have a seizure, it just happens. There is currently no known cure. What does help is by taking medicine for seizures to keep them under control.
How Can I Help Someone If They’re Having A Seizure?
The best thing to do in this situation is to clear the area around them so the person having the seizure does not bump their head or body parts on anything.
Roll the person on their side and make sure they don’t swallow their tongue. As some epileptics will unknowingly do this and choke.
Last thing you need to do is time it count how long the seizure last. This is important information for the person having the seizure and their doctor.
All Seizures Are NOT The Same
There are various types of epilepsy! Some people have a mild cases called “absense epilepsy” this is where you stare. Most people don’t shake during this.
Some people have grand mal seizures. This is where the person shakes violently for seconds to minutes! The time varies for everyone.
My last seizure turned into a grand mal. I was only diagnosed with abson epilepsy (mild form) when I was 10 years old.
I am now 26 and 2 years ago I had a really bad seizure that popped the blood vessels in my face and my right eye. I had to cover my face with make up because I was embarrassed to walk out in public, with what looked like a rash on my face.
In light of everything, I still have my heath. I have been seizure free for 2 years. That being said, I truly believe stress IS a huge factor in seizures and dealing with them. If you struggle, try and do yoga and meditate. You never realize how stressed you are until you move yourself out of a situation.
Which is precisely what I did 2 years ago. After I finished college I moved to England with my boyfriend and then moved again to Singapore. Its been a whirlwind of a ride and haven’t looked back since.
Moving to a new country, starting a new job and making new friends. Sounds easy right?WRONG. Living abroad and away from your home country comes with many obstacles. Having a good group to surround yourself with is one of the biggest.
I thought when I moved to Singapore, I would make friends with locals and have a great great experience. However, that’s not always the case. I find that local Singaporeans are really quiet and don’t speak to foreigners much. If they do speak to you, it’s at your place of work.
Meeting other expats is also challenging based on what kind of job you have. If you have a regular 9-5 job than it’s fairly easy. However, I have a 2-10 job with Monday & Tuesday off. It’s quite bad really. You miss out on weekends. The people you work with become your ‘friends.’ Notice how I put ‘friends.’
I say this because the first few months it’s great. It does feel like you’ve made friends. You really get to know people and then suddenly something changes. As this recently happened to me after 7 months of being abroad.
Suddenly, you notice co-workers popping up on Facebook and insta at another co-workers dinner parties, or afternoon tea. You realize that the WhatsApp group you are in is a joke. When you try to arrange something fun in the group chat, it’s responded with ” …silence…” You miss parties and evening dinners with other co-workers whom you thought were your ‘friends.’ You then find your self starting all over, trying to make friends, while at the same time wonder what the hell happened.
No one wants to be lonely in another country. As an expat, you soon realize this. You really have to make an effort and put yourself out there. For me it’s easy to talk with people, get involved in yoga or dance classes. But when someone burns bridges and completely starts excluding you from things, its just rude. You begin to wonder if it’s something you did or said.. Then you realize its just them.
You start to really miss home, your bffs and bae.
Sometimes I wonder if I loose people due to my partners success in life. My partner and I live a great life that most people dream of. Neither of us walk around flaunting anything. We’re very modest and it’s crazy how people could possibly be intimidated by other people’s success. We’re constantly inviting people over for BBQ’s or just a night of drinks and pub quiz on the tele. Expat life is weird and you will have to put in a lot of effort to make it work. Especially if you want to make it feel like “home.”
What you have to do is keep your head high, meet new people and stay social. Don’t let toxic people around you bring you down. Rather than being excluded from your group of ‘friends,’ join meet-up groups in areas of interest and volunteer. It’s a great way to meet new people and give back to the community.
Slice of Paradise
Antigua is the kind of place you see on TV or in magazines. It is a genuine slice of paradise tucked away in the south caribbean.
Where To Stay
St. John although is quite common. Its not as attractive in person.
I recommend a place down south called English Harbour.
We stayed at a lovely place called South Point – English Harbour
The stay included free kayaks & paddle boards.
When you take the paddle boards out, you can paddle on the other side of the cove, where you will find an amazing beach and restaurant which serves alcohol.
Unfortunately, I didn’t get any pictures paddle boarding, because I didn’t want to drop my phone in the water. Funny story is John took the kayak out, which I thought was unsteady to begin with. He wound up falling off the kayak into the ocean and loosing his ray bands. Normally you can see in the water, however we didn’t notice until we got back to shore and I was too busy laughing at the hilariousness of it all.
Moral of the story, don’t take anything valuable with you, while you are in the water.
We booked a trip with Wadadli Cats which is a snorkeling excursion and booze cruise on a sailboat. The cruise last around 5-6 hours and will pick you up from the nearest beach you are staying at. There are over 365 beaches on this island. One for everyday of the year.
The cruise takes you from the north end of the Island and then sails to the south end of the island and back. You are not allowed to consume the alcohol until after the snorkeling. (fair) Once on board the sailboat they have an assortment of alcohol and the famous ‘rum punch’ equipped with bathrooms, food and local snacks.
Singapore is the melting pot of Asia. If you’re one of the lucky ones to snag a job in Singapore you will be submersed in a culture that is very different than a western culture.
Jobs in Singapore
Lately the Ministry of Manpower has been constantly changing visas for expats. It is becoming harder and harder to get a job in Singapore unless you have a trade that is deemed in-demand by the government of Singapore.
Teaching English at a tuition centre is one of the easiest ways to work in Singapore. If you:
- Hold a Bachelors Degree
- Under the age of 30
- Some experience working in a school environment/teaching
If you are interested in working in Singapore, do a quick google search of tuition centres in Singapore.
So what about the money? In Singapore, the average salary for an English Teacher at a tuition centre is $4,300+ SGD and goes up from there. It varies by centre.
This isn’t the easy TEFL job in Thailand or Indonesia. The schools expect you to go above and beyond. Singaporean parents expect a lot and then more. Full time working hours are 40+ per week. This isn’t traditional Monday – Friday ; 9 – 5pm
Most tuition centres will give teachers Monday and Tuesday off.
You will NEVER have a weekend off.
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I’ve had this Resort booked and PAID for 5 months (Jan – May 2017) at the Lotus Desaru Beach Resort, for my boyfriend and I. Unfortunately since he kept getting called away for work, I would have to reschedule our stay. After rescheduling more than 8x The lady on the other end of the phone finally said, “Ma’am I cannot reschedule the stay anymore.”
So my last reservation was final. I had 2 options.. forfeit my holiday that I’ve already paid for or just go! So I asked some ladies that I work with If they would like to go on a holiday before our actually holiday is coming up. So this is like our Pre-holiday, holiday.
The obvious response was YES! FREE HOLIDAY!
Ladies Pre-Holiday, Holiday
Turned out to be an alright resort. It was equipped with a waterpark that was full of kids. As a teacher right now, I need to escape these little monsters. So naturally, we all avoided the waterpark like the plague.
The breakfast was maybe 3/5 stars. It wasn’t the best I’ve had. I mostly ate Roti for breakfast because the ‘western’ selection was awful. The actual rooms were ok. It was a 2 bedroom suite, queen bed. However, mostly everything was pretty outdated and looked rather old and dingy.
The resort was right on the beach, so we spend a lot of time in the ocean or lounging out, drinking cheap beer and reading a book.
A one point during the lounging out and reading, I was approached by what I can only describe as creepy.
We were all soaking up the sun under our cabanas and groups of people passed by behind us. However, there was one group of guys where one of the guys strayed away and out of the 15 cabanas available, he decided to come sit next to me. “Oh brilliant!” I sarcastically thought to myself.
As soon as this guy sat down he tried to talk, and we all had out faces in a book. He could clearly see that. So, he hung around. About 10-15 minutes pass and I’m finished with ,my chapter and set the book down to get a drink and he starts to talk.. with what I can only describe as drilling me with the 50 questions. I polity answer a few, give obvious fake name and then this dude whips out his phone and starts scrolling through facebook asking if this is my facebook. WTF??
I basically kept saying, “No’ then he asked for my number, again I respond with a “No!”
This dude was super persistent. I thought a polite ‘fuck off’ might be in order. Instead I stopped talking and moved over to one of the other girls cabanas and drank until he fucked off. After that we joked about my pseudonym ‘Mary’
After that, we had a lovely time!